Top 3 Misconceptions About Valentine's Day

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Valentine’s Day can feel like one of the hardest days of the year.

If that's true for you, the difficult often comes from misconceptions we tell ourselves about the day and what it means.

When you look at Valentine’s Day in a new light, you start feeling more loved and loving right away, whatever your love life looks like.

Would you like to do that now?

Let’s look at the top three misconceptions about Valentine’s Day. They sound like this:

1. “It’s Valentine’s Day and I’m single. That means I’m unwanted/ unloved/ doomed to die alone.”
2. “It’s Valentine’s Day and my mate changed my spark plugs for me … but what I really wanted was champagne and chocolate. If he/she really loved me, he/she would give me what I want.”
3. “My relationship is rocky/abusive/ending/nonexistent. Valentine’s Day makes me feel like everyone has a happy love life except for me.”

If your situation sounds like any of the above, you’ve come to the right place.

Are you willing to look at these misconceptions in a new light?

1. If you’re single and sad about it, consider the possibility that it’s your judgment about being single that’s making you unhappy – rather than Valentine’s Day itself. You’ve made up the meaning that “Single = Unloved/ Unwanted/Unlovable.” Would you be open to a new interpretation of “single” that brings you peace, joy and open-hearted willingness to meet your mate?
2. If you’re frustrated with Mr. or Ms. Spark Plug, recognize that different people show love in different ways. Spark plugs may have less sparkle than champagne … yet it’s your mate’s way of saying “You are precious to me and I want you to be safe.” How loving is that? Would you be open to recognizing all the ways your partner demonstrates love for you, including those you may have overlooked?
3. If you feel defeated about your love life – well, feeling defeated causes wrinkles, so would you be willing to let go of that, so you can look younger and feel better?

Whatever your situation – would you be open to a fresh perspective that will support you in feeling more loving toward yourself and others right now?

If so, say “Yes” out loud now and picture a diamond-bright pinpoint in your heart. Watch it expand to illuminate every cell in your body, mind, heart and soul. Imagine the light of Unconditional Love radiating from every pore on your skin. Breathe the Love in and out three times with me now.

Very good! Wow, you look shiny. Will you be my Valentine?